A ministry colleague of mine was faced with a dilemma several years ago. He had a $30,000 bill that had to be paid in 30 days. Unfortunately, he didn’t have any funds available to pay it. As he was praying about this, he felt that God was pointing him to 3 individuals to approach. In his mind he immediately said “Yes, God” any one of these three could easily write a check for the $30,000 without blinking an eye. In fact, all three of them were long-time supporters and friends of the ministry. He could feel some of the pressure lift and a confidence return to his outlook. Then it all changed in an instant.
He sensed God was telling him that he wasn’t to ask any of them for the needed funds. In fact, if any of them offered to provide the funds he was not to accept them. He was to say that he wanted them to simply pray with him over the next 30 days to ask God to provide.
When he called each of them to ask for their help, they each offered to write the check. By simply saying ok, he would have the $30,000 in the checking account immediately. But rather than saying ok, he told them what he felt God had shown him about their involvement; that he wasn’t permitted to accept any funds they may have offered. As the beads of sweat grew on his neck, he asked them to pray with him for the next 30 days. All three somewhat reluctantly agreed and they decided a daily conference call at lunch would be their prayer schedule.
Over the next 3 weeks they prayed and heard about how unexpected funds had shown up in the mail. They opened envelopes together and watched the number rise from $100 to $1000 to $5000 and ultimately $25,000 in three weeks. They were amazed but new they hadn’t reached the goal of $30,000. For the last week nothing more came in, they were stuck at $25,000 a mere $5,000 short.
As they were praying that last day, the mail arrived and was placed in front of my colleague on his desk. He began thumbing through the bills and junk mail. There was nothing there that looked like the missing $5,000 check. But there was a wrinkled and partially torn envelope that looked like an invitation or small thank you card. When it was opened, tucked inside a folded piece of note paper was a check for $5,000. The note simply said, please use this anyway it is needed. As he described the envelope and note as well as the amount of the check all 3 of the men on the other end of the conference call got chocked up and emotional. When things finally calmed down one of the men offered up an explanation of what he was going through.
“For years we have used our financial success to fund many in our community. It has always been an honor to do so. We have all thought that was the only way God would use us. Today we found out he could use us in an entirely different way.”
On that day, three successful businessmen watched their lives becoming more significant. They learned that their contribution to the Kingdom of God was more than just money. It came from one of those places they least expected it to.
We have observed and been involved with many different men’s ministry efforts over the years. Without exception, all of them were based on improving someone’s behavior. Disciplines were the focus, bible study, hearing the Word, individual and corporate prayer engagement, church attendance and participation, serving, teaching, evangelizing, etc. None of these disciplines are bad but they were usually a way to measure your performance. The better you are at these, the better Christian you are considered to be.
Coaches Tip starts with a slightly different premise. The first step is to help every coach understand that God’s love is not performance based. He doesn’t love us more because we do more of the stuff. His love for us is a given not a goal.
Coaches Tip is a subsidiary of Choices, PMC, a registered 501c3 non-profit organization. Donations are tax deductible within I.R.S. guidelines.
However, Coaches Tip is more organic than many non-profits. We would like to grow as a healthy organism that is orderly and directed by God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. We focus our energy and resources on preparing, equipping, strengthening, and encouraging senior Christian men to discover and enjoy their relationship with God and to allow Him to use the journey of their lives to impact younger Christian men in a significant way.
Our experience is that God will orchestrate that intersection. But it is extremely important that the younger man have a real desire to find a coach and to have asked God to provide one for him. My story is an example of that desire, and it is one of the reasons I started coaches tip back in 2002.
Coaches Tip will not accomplish its mission by a bunch of older men trying to convince younger men that they need our input. Unfortunately, many mentoring and leadership efforts have tried to do just that, with limited success and even less significance.
So, to be clear, it requires 2 individuals seeking God diligently for the provision and direction of a new long-term relationship.
When I began working with coaches back in 2002, I had a group of 5 men that all desired to be coaches. They met at my house at 6:00am on the first Saturday of the month to talk about their struggles, their breakthroughs, and just the day-to-day things that come up. We called it a coach’s locker-room session. Those meetings were unscripted, and I served as a facilitator. Those 2-hour breakfasts helped build relationships between the coaches and provided insight for the month to come.
Today we are working one on one with the coach's we serve but are developing a locker-room session that is remote over Zoom. We are also developing a Podcast, Broadcast, and Live Stream approach to serving coaches throughout the US and even abroad.
Short answer, everywhere. But we try to find gatherings of men who are in retirement or are approaching it. In Florida there are groups of men who meet regularly in Golf Clubs for Christian encouragement and support. Those meetings as well as men’s group meetings in local parishes and churches are a wonderful source of men with a heart that is now leaning toward significance.
More than what you would ever think.
If I told you the cost today, you would probably scratch your head and go play golf, or tennis. But it is a Kingdom investment, and it has Kingdom ROI. I assure you it will return at least a 10-fold increase and for some more than a 100-fold increase. It will change your life and in many cases the trajectory of your family for generations. It will change the life and trajectory for the generations that follow the man you coach. It is not to be taken lightly, nor is it something you will do for a while. It will become a part of your life for the rest of your life.
We do not require a new coach to pay anything to become a coach. His investment is his time and relationship with God. We do ask current coaches to pay it forward for new coaches and we regularly ask individuals, leaders, churches, business, etc. to support Coaches Tip. All gifts are tax deductible per I.R.S. guidelines and can be made securely on-line or by check or cash.